So I'm sitting in Starbucks this morning reading the paper. Next to me are two women chatting it up. I suppose they needed an audience with how loud they were talking - sooooo annoying. Just because we're in the same place, we don't need to be listening to your shit.
They start talking about shopping. Of course, well-to-do area + women = shopping. Alright, but it's NOT ok to hide it from your spouse. Apparently, it's hilarious to hide it in the trunk of the car until he goes to work the next morning or just cut the tags off. Then, brace yourself for the bill. "I know what day it comes, so I'm prepared." Ladies, what the fuck are you thinking? Somehow it doesn't seem to make sense to actually create a fight with your spouse a month ahead of time. You really have nothing better to do.
Maybe this is what's wrong with our society. All women talk about is that they don't want to "mother" their husbands. Newsflash - they don't want to "parent" our asses either. I believe you have an obligation to your family, not just your spouse, to understand your finances. It becomes easy to pass it off to one partner, but you're just creating conflict.
I'm the first to say that I LOVE NICE THINGS. Would I spend what we don't have? NO. If you're a homemaker, and for some that term is used loosely, you need to be fiscally responsible. Make no mistake on what I'm saying - you shouldn't need permission to spend. If you're both adults, act that way, it can actually be very attractive.
My father has always told me that,"Women give men too much credit, our minds are much simpler." The last thing they want is to fight with us. I've come to realize over the years that this is very true. Dad has taken my crying calls after an argument with Sopes and his response if usually the same, "Kel, you're over analyzing the situation". I know that if my husband's stomach is full, he is "getting it" on a regular basis and the bills are paid he's a happy man. Men don't really care about the latest shoe; they act like they do to make us happy.
In the lifestyle that we live, it's hard sometimes to explain to our children that they can't have everything. Sopes and I tell them, "We don't have the money right now," when they ask for unnecessary things. Teaching them that it's beneficial to work for things and the difference between "wants" and "needs" will only help them in the future. How the hell can you teach them about this if you're not following your own advice?
I'm interested to hear your perspectives on this. What's your opinion?