Taking The House Back...MOMMY STYLE!

It’s been really hectic around our house lately.  The blogging has kind of been pushed to the side, but we’re back! 

Between the holidays and the store there really hasn’t been much time left.  If someone told me a year ago that I’d take on all of this without Sopes around I would have been laughing hysterically, forget that, fucking crying!  It’s actually been not that bad.  Lists are the key – and crossing off makes me jump for joy!

On top of all of that, I’m trying to take my house back.  What?!?!?!? Yeah, taking the house back – Mommy style!  I’ve decided that the kids have too much of a say in this house.  Everything seems to be an argument – they usually win.  My guilt with Sopes being gone has dissipated!  The bottom line is that he’s doing this for our family, and we all need to be grateful that he didn’t move us away again.

It’s been so hectic from the time they wake up lately to the time they fall asleep.  Arguments over what they wear, what is eaten, when they play, when they go to bed, what chores they do and what we do for fun.  I have finally had enough!

Four letter words are my friend – they do make me feel better.  The last straw was this weekend when they were questioning purchases that were made.  WTF??  My new favorite line is, “I’m the mommy that’s why”.  I now refuse to even engage in their conversations of, “Why?” When their voices are raised at all, it’s straight to the living room – where there is not a damn thing to do – to sit.  Seriously, I think there was a 3 hour rotation going on last night.  They’ll get the message quick enough.  Two weeks home on Christmas break in my possession should be long enough to curb this shit.

This may sound mean, but it’s not.  I’ve been communicating with all of their teachers lately, and finding out that they are on their best behavior in school leaves me with mixed feelings.  It means that they don’t act like complete idiots in public; just at home – which is great!  On the other hand, they’re doing it because they can get away with it – not great.

This coming year, my New Year’s Resolution may sound a little off, but it’s to raise adults, not children.  I’m determined to make them more independent, and along with this should come confidence.  I admit that I baby them too much and it will only hurt them in the long run.  If I show them that we believe they can do it – they will.

This is Sopes Friday blog – really late.  This time it’s my fault – not his.  

 

 

Comments

[Tinyjinny]

Yea for parents! Go, Kelly!

For Sopes, I don't know if semi-permanent advent calendars are your thing, but there's Etsy. :) http://www.etsy.com/search_results.php?search_query=advent+calendar&search_type=handmade

[Rhonda Gelinas]

For next year's calendars try: http://www.vermontchristmasco.com/

[Ivyleager]

Excellent post on getting to the place where you're finding the balance between love and discipline. Don't beat yourself up over it. Neat thing about kids, they get it pretty quick, but for damn sure will continue to try to push a button or two. Best of luck.

[Jeremy Scott Tillema]

SOPEL!!!!! im so glad you have an online presence you guys!!!!! Mrs. Sopel hang in there. its all apart of growing up.

Brent, you are THE MAN!!! i dont know if you remember this but last year around this time you guys had a double header against NASHVILLE. i was at the home portion of the game next to the bench with the "SOPEL FAN CLUB" sign. i hung it on my wall in honor of everything you and the rest of the guys accomplished. i PROUDLY wear my Sopel Jersey every chance i get. Good luck brother and MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM MY FAMILY TO YOURS!!!! :D

[IronMom]

There is a reason for my nickname. It has as much to do with parenting style as it does with my passion for strength training.
You are absolutely right about raising adults. Tough in the moment for Moms but worth it when they are grown! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year's resolution

[Yardplots.blogspot.com]

Are you serious? This makes me want to cry. You have so much in your life yet you feel the need to complain about your lifestyle. You make more money in 2 months then I have made in entire life. If you want a show about struggles, I am a single dad of a 2 and half year old, on disability pay that is lower then the social assistance that I do not qualify for. It is insulting to me to hear that you have a show about your problems. You have created your problems, drop your multi-million dollar job and the problems of you not getting to see your kids will disappear. I can not believe how greedy millionaires like you are. Obviously you will never find happiness when you are unhappy having it All. I can not even afford Christmas lights for our tree. :'( Somehow I get the feeling we will have a happier Christmas then all of you.

[kelli]

yardplots - I'm sorry about your hardships, but that's no reason to try to belittle theirs or take it out on them because of their financial status. seriously? stop concentrating on how bad you think your life is, appreciate what you've got and you might be a little happier. everyone has problems. don't let them make you bitter.

(and last I checked they didn't have a "show about their struggles.")

[Yardplots.blogspot.com]

I am sorry that you missed the show Kelly. It aired on Sportsnet. I am sorry that you also missed the point. It is obvious to me that we will have a happier Christmas then a family of millionaires that complain about their life publicly online and on national TV. It is sad to know that this is how people live. Your greed causes your own problems.

[Yardplots.blogspot.com]

try this site it might help you out... http://www.globalrichlist.com/

[realhockeywidow]

Hello - Since you feel the necessity to attack us on my blog, I will respond. Please do not pass judgement on us unless you truly know us and follow. The amount that we give to charity it endless. This is part of the reason that my husband still does work. Passing this message on to our children is very important to us and always has been. We explain to the kids that if he gave up the job, we couldn't donate what we do. I do not feel the need to justify our position, but all millionaires are not selfish, uncaring people. Helping military families, buying headstones for children who have passed, etc. are things that we couldn't do had Brent not made the money he has.

[GregPayne]

I can't believe he posted that. Just because people have money doesn't mean they don't have problems. There is more to life than money, and I am sure you have heard the quote "Money doesn't buy happiness." Sopels just know that the majority of the readers on here don't agree with that guy.

[Yardplots.blogspot.com]

she's right. i don't even feel life is worth it. to be honest i hate life. if it wasn't for my daughter i would choose not to be here. I never asked to be a 33 year old single dad on Canada Pension Plan disability with no sign of recovery in site. I never asked to have my government pension money spent by the age of 35. I certainly did not ask to have a piece of glass stuck inside me from an accident almost 28 years ago. I never asked for the glass to be working it's way to my heart or the feet, knee, hip, back and neck pain it causes. At no point and time did I ask to be diagnosed as having major depressive disorder and mixed mood disorder. I never asked for my employer to not want anything to do with me because of my pain. I wish I had some friends to help me. I wish my family wasn't 2000 miles away. I wish I could for once be healthy physically and mentally. How much do I have to look forward to knowing that pain will be there forever and continue to get worse. I never asked to be physically, sexually and mentally abused. I never asked for years and years of continual harassment for being born with gynecomastia or the failed surgeries to correct it. I hate it so much and it is time for the world to know. FUCK MY LIFE

Fuck my dream of spreading the word about how we need to help the world. Obviously the world chooses richer problems. Enough of being grateful for being alive despite it all. Going forward I am going to complain. If millionaires are aloud to bitch and complain then I should be entitled to it as well. This will be the last past ever. bye

[Yardplots.blogspot.com]

sorry for my comments