I've been a little "on-edge" lately. No, not because of the trade or anything like that. Our son has his FIRST GIRLFRIEND. I completely understand that they're going to grow up and this will happen, but NOW? We have a very open household with a policy of talking and just figuring it out together. Last night, I'm snuggled in to watch Sopes game and our 12 year old Jake came and sat with me. Being a mom, you know when they need to say something. Reluctantly, I asked what was going on. "I want to kiss my girlfriend," he replied. WTF, was what ran through my mind. (Translation: "Honey, lets talk," is what came out.)
First of all, I felt so grateful that he would come to me with something like that. Do I wish that Sopes was home to help? You damn well bet so! Jake and I, along with Paul's help, went through the pros and cons of the situation. My biggest concern is him getting his little heart getting broken. It's easy to remember what it felt like with a first "love". It's also easy to remember the butterflies, and thinking that it would never go wrong.
When he does decide that it's the right time, I asked if he would tell me - of course Mom needs to write that down! Yup, I'm a sap! It's crazy that this is the same kid still snuggles, needs me at every turn, but thinks he has this grown-up side - yeah, not so much.
Last week, a good friend was just telling me that we only had five years until our little guys were off to college. Five years to help shape them into the men that they are becoming, doesn't seem like nearly enough time. We can only arm our kids with information and hope that they get it right.
BTW - In case you're wondering, I did have permission to write about this from Jake. NEVER would my interests come before theirs...